Thursday, January 26, 2017

Why bully?? Be a friend!

Why bully somebody?? Why not just be there friend?? I mean, bullying means guilt and shame, (if your not a narccasist) and possibly humility for yourself. Being a friend seems so much better... I mean, laughter, joy, and happiness comes from it. But, its up to you how you want your life to be, and if you chose the negative way, dont make others suffer. Being friends just make the world a better, happier place!! So, Ill be gour friend!!!

Wednesday, January 18, 2017

A Mental Health Interview with Sam

Sam

Cambridge

EUPD, PTSD, Recurrent depressive disorder

Since I was 11 years old (7 years)

I have tried psychotherapy and CBT and neither were very helpful for me as I didn’t trust the therapists.

My best coping strategy is to pretend like things are ok - people always say its unhealthy but a lot of the time I am so focused on looking like I am fine that I’m distracted from my real emotions and thoughts so it actually helps me sometimes. I also like to go out and put my headphones in with my music on full volume.

I have an absolutely amazing GP who supports me so much and who I am so grateful for and I have my best friend who has mental health problems too so she’s very supportive and we help each other in recovery.

They don’t but that’s because I don’t let them - I don’t tell them everything that’s going on and I protect them from the truth a lot so its hard for them. They are loving and brilliant parents but I would rather them not know everything.

I went from attending a private sixth form college five days a week, playing netball three times a week, playing rugby four times a week, volunteering, doing work experience, studying for university to suddenly having none of that - mental health ripped everything away from me and I was left in a psychiatric ward with nothing. Ever since then if I’ve even slightly been down people question if I need to go back to the ward. I feel like mental health has taken away my right to make judgements on my own life and put me in a cage where everyone else comes and stares at me to make decisions for me.

I see myself as a recovered mental health nurse who is working to end the horrid stigma around EUPD and I’ll hopefully be living on my own and living a full life free of the barriers my mental health currently places on me.

A Life of Trauma and Mental Health

Jist so everyone knows.. this is not my story. This story belongs to an ammonymus friemd of mine.

When I was 3 years old I was sexually abused by my natural father. This carried on until the age of five when my mum kicked him out.  A Number of years later when I was 12 years old I was contact again with him. However he and his new wife also sexually abused with me at that Age too.

As a result of this I had a very turbulent teenage years as you might imagine drink drugs dodgy relationships etc

When I was 19 I got arrested for drinking and driving and sent to prison when I arrived at the prison I was diagnosed with having mental health issues and placed on a poor copers wing.

When I go onto that when I found out that I would be in a cell with a convicted child sex offender this didn't sit very well with me as you might imagine

I saw red I went to myself I grab my razor I split razor put the razor blades out of it and then went up behind the guy grabbed in and put the Razor to his throat.

The prison team intervened however the guy didn't know where they cut to his throat. I am not normally a violent person however as a result of this incident I was sent to a high security hospital where I stayed for 14 years and it is at that hospital and I engaged in my trauma focused work

I undertook DBT first so that I come down as a coping skills that I needed to build to deal with the heightened emotions which would undoubtedly result from the work. I was very lucky that I was in an NHS establishment which hand a lot of funding.

When I engaged in the trauma work I found it so difficult I went to the first session and I nearly ran however the therapeutic relationship I had with the therapist enabled me to face my fears.

Fast forward and I have almost finished my pathway now.

PTSD and borderline are my diagnoses too.

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

The Confusion of Life

Why do bad things happen to such good, loving, caring, warm-hearted people? I just don't get it. Its so scary. Why must the worst thi gs happen to the best people? Im trying to figure this out because i sure as hell dont want to lose anymore of my loved ones right now or see my loved ones hurt, either emotionally or physically. I know i just got to stay positive, but how do you do that when your in shock and confusion? Any imput?

Monday, January 16, 2017

Overcoming Trials

Its been a rough few days for me. Found out some scary news about a family member. Which im not comftorable getting into detail yet at this point. Also, havig issues witj a family member understanding my mental illness. I have so many mixed emotions, its out of control. I just have to remember that God is with me and he is watching over me and my loved ones. Trials are hard, its the way you handle it, and i think im handling them pretty damn well. Im praying, im seeking out help from my support team, and im thinoin positive. For thkse of you who beleive there is a God, please keep me and my family in prayers!!

Sunday, January 15, 2017

An Interview (Mental Health) Miles!!

What is your diagnosis?
Borderline Personality Disorder/ Chronic Depressive Disorder/ Generalised Anxiety Disorder

How long have you had a mental illness or became aware of it?
Since 1987

Have you tried therapy? What kind? Was it helpful?
I have tried generic councilling, which has helped to control impulsivity. I am six weeks into psychoanalysis which has been distressing.

What are some coping skills you use when your symptoms are happening?
Power walking/ listening to music/ reading

Do you have a support system? Family? Friends? Both?
Both

Do you think your family understand your diagnosis/mental illness?
They try to understand, but don’t really grasp the severity of it and how it impacts upon every waking moment

How has your mental illness/diagnosis affeted your life?
Hugely.  It is an fundamental part of me-  I regard it as an additional limb. It’s a constant weight and presence. It was exhausting battle pretending it didn’t impact on my life, so I’ve reluctan tly accepted I have a serious, progressive, life altering illness.

Where do you see your self in 10 years?

I have no idea. I just want to live through today.

Do you have anymore questions for me?

An Interview (Mental health) Jessica!!!


> What is your first name ? Jessica
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> What city/state do you live in? Traverse City, MI
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> What is your diagnosis? Ptsd, BPD, anorexia/bulimia, General anxiety disorder, dysthymia, obsessive compulsive disorder, ADHD
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> How long have you had a mental illness or became aware of it? Started counseling at 11, stopped eating at 9, first psych hospital at 14
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> Have you tried therapy? What kind? Was it helpful? Yes. For the last 25 years, all kinds. Psycho retail therapy, dbt, eating disorder therapy, emotions anonymous, and residential treatment center
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> What are some coping skills you use when your symptoms are happening? I try them but it all depends on my mood at the time, if I am already upset then honestly most coping skills don't work....it may be in my head but I'm no good at coping at all usually.
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> Do you have a support system? Family? Friends? Both?I used to. My mom killed herself and my sister cut me out, but i have my husband and grandma.
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> Do you think your family understand your diagnosis/mental illness? Yes most definitely, thank God.
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> How has your mental illness/diagnosis affeted your life? I lost my first husband, my Kids, my job, ok multiple jobs, my weight fluctuates more then anything else. My current husband has gone thru Hell and honestly I don't know why he stays.
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> Where do you see your self in 10 years? Hopefully still alive, happily married and full on in our business...

Saturday, January 14, 2017

My Contact Information

If you have any questions, comments, or requests, you may contact me at 1920-306-3474 or my email: jjmarie000@gmail.com

Mental Illness Motivation- Keep Moving Forward

Stop the stigma of mental illness!!!

An Interview (mental health) - Jenna!

My name is Jenna

I'm from Las Vegas, NV

I have Borderline Personality Disorder, PTSD, ADD/ADHD, Panic Disorder, Chronic Clinical Depression, Anxiety, Eating Disorders, and I also struggle daily with selfharm.

I've been aware of mental illness since I was 10 because I was sent to a psychward but I have had it ever since I was young.. the first signs started to show when I was 7.

Yes, I have tried therapy. When I was 12 I was sent to a long term treatment center that was located out of state where I lived for 1 year and 21 days. That program was completely centered around DBT. I have been going to therapy ever since but I have recently started CBT. Overall I wouldn't say it really helped me but it did teach me some good skills and ways I can try to manage my emotions.

My coping skills are listening to music, taking walks, colouring, writing, drawing, playing with slime, deep breathing, and sometimes talking with a friend.

Yes, I have a support system. My family and friends. My boyfriend used to be my main support system but we have broken up recently.

Yes, I am not the only one who struggles with mental illness in my family. We are all aware, understanding, and supportive of eachother.

Mental illness has made my life extremely difficult. The obstacles I face can be so overwhelming. I am being pulled from school because my Panic Disorder is so intense. I cannot order my own food. All of my relationships have gone down hill. It seems my life is constantly spiraling out of control.

In 10 years I hope to be married with children and be working as a preschool teacher.

An Interview (Mental Illness)- Tara

What is your first name ? Tara

What city/state do you live in? Bradford, West Yorkshire, England, United Kingdom.

What is your diagnosis?  Borderline Personality Disorder impulsive type, Generalised Anxiety Disorder, low mood, avoidant personality traits.  

How long have you had a mental illness or became aware of it? i have had mental illness for 10 years.

Have you tried therapy? What kind? Was it helpful? i have had counselling, CBT none has worked and not really helpful long term.

What are some coping skills you use when your symptoms are happening? I call people, message people, make live videos on groups, draw pictures, look on online retailer websites on things i'd like to buy, and i also cuddle my dog. 

Do you have a support system? Family? Friends? Both?   Sort of from family, one always stays in the house with me, but they don't understand and can be quite mean about it, even mean to me when i have anxiety attacks in public and refuse to help me walk. So i wouldn't say i really have a support system despite someone staying in house with me, but i do ring samaritans a lot which is a UK helpline for any issues and find them helpful to talk to and i DO NOT trust City Mental Health Care Team, i do not get on with my care coordinator who is very judgmental and horrible, doesn't listen to me or respect my wishes.

Do you think your family understand your diagnosis/mental illness? This is a hard one because my dad does try and sometimes he seems to understand a lot about my anxiety but not my BPD and again can be quite mean towards my me and my mental illness sometimes, my mother has zero understanding she doesn't believe i am poorly and thinks i make excuses and fake it basically. 

How has your mental illness/diagnosis affeted your life? It has ruined my life, i'm unable to leave the house i have no friends i have been housebound on off for 10 years.

Where do you see your self in 10 years? maybe dead? i dunno :( i do not see my future any different than this. But in my dreams i would like to think i'll have a normal life do everyday things like normal people, my own house a job and just loving life care free.

An Interview (Addiction and Mental Health)

What is your first name ? (Optional)

kristen

What city/state do you live in? (Optional)

Fond du lac Wisconsin

What is your diagnosis?
Depression, bipolar, anxiety, ptsd

How long have you had a mental illness or became aware of it?

I realized I had depression when I was 14 or so but the bipolar and anxiety came later around 20 or so and ptsd was diagnosed when I was 23 but I had been told I should have been treated for it long before.

Have you tried therapy? What kind? Was it helpful?

I have been on and off different medications and seen multiple therapists. Talking with someone has never worked for me because they make me feel like I self induce my problems. But I have found medications to control symptoms.

What are some coping skills you use when your symptoms are happening?

Deep breathing and counting has always helped me to relax. I also listen to music to ignore everyone. It helps me to center myself to a safe place in my head.

Do you have a support system? Family? Friends? Both?

Both. Not my whole family and not all of my friends but I do have people from groups that are always there for me to talk to when I need it.

Do you think your family understand your diagnosis/mental illness?

No i honestly Dont. My mom does have her own mental illnesses. But I Dont even feel she truly understands her own so how can she understand mine. And the rest of my family who does not have any mental illnesses, I Dont expect them to understand.

How has your mental illness/diagnosis affeted your life?

I've lost out on opportunities because I was too anxious to go through with them or too depressed to get out of bed. I've even lost friends because they unknowingly triggered my PTSD and scared me half to death.

Where do you see your self in 10 years?

Im hoping in 10 years Im hoping all of my symptoms can be controlled and that ill be able to function without my illnesses getting in the way at any point in time.

Do you have anymore questions for me?

Can you explain your diagnoses to me a bit better. I would like to know about it from someone who goes through it and not reading it from a book a Dr wrote.

What is your name? (Optional)

Kristen

How old are you? (Optional)

27

What city/state do you live in? (Optional)

Fond du lac Wisconsin

What is your addiction?
My addiction is pain meds, adderall, cocaine, marijuana

How long have you battled addiction? 

Since I was 14

What led you to start your drug of choice?

It was actually my idea that I brought up to friends to try pain meds. And I got hooked.

How has your addiction affected your life?
I have lost friends because of my addiction. I have ruined many friendships and relationships. I have lost jobs and lost sight of who I am.

Do you have a positive support system? Family? Friends? Both?

Not really. They Dont seem to understand that addiction isn't a joke. They say they are happy when Im clean. But it seems fake. As far as friends go yes I have a huge support system there.

Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

Completely clean and sober

What would your main advice be to people on edge of addiction or even other addicts?

Seek help. You can honestly turn almost anywhere and someone will be there to help you or point you in the direction you need to be in to get help. Even if you start with NA or AA meetings the program is wonderful and it will work if you let it.

Kristin asked me: When did you realize you hit rock bottom?
My response is: When i went tgree nights in a row blacking out from alcohol, waking up each of the following days kmowing how many people ive lost, and how i was ruinig my life!

A Short Story

Inspirational and Motivational Quotes

-Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing at at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

-Sometimes the prettiest smiles hide the deepest secrets. The prettiest eyes have cried the most tears. And the kindest hearts have felt the most pain.

-One day! Someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else.

-Love your body. Let your mind wonder. And let yourself be the person you secretly always wanted to be.

-As i look back at my life. I realize that everytime I thought I was beong rejected from something good, i was actually being redirected to something better.

-Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy until you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.

-You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose the sight of the shore!!

An Interview (Mental Health) With Morgan!


What is your first name ? Morgan

What city/state do you live in? Concord, New Hampshire

What is your diagnosis? Borderline Personality Disorder (I also have secondary diagnoses of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Major Depressive Disorder-mostly to help with insurance coverage since most companies don't cover you for BPD).

How long have you had a mental illness or became aware of it?
I believe I started developing BPD as early as 5 or 6 years old. I got short term treatment for an "Adjustment Disorder" (now I can attribute it to BPD)  at age 9. Around age 14 I knew I had a mental illness of some sort. After much researching on my part, I self diagnosed with BPD at age 17. I did not get a formal diagnosis until age 21. (I'm 23 now for comparison)

Have you tried therapy? What kind? Was it helpful?
I've tried many different therapies including CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) and DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), and medications. CBT did not prove to be helpful. DBT was helpful but I need a longer term treatment plan for it to really sink in. 

What are some coping skills you use when your symptoms are happening?
Depends how far in a crisis I am. After it gets really bad, I am unable to use skills and usually resort to self harming or other self destructive behaviors. I am sometimes able to use skills. They include coloring, taking my sleep meds to sleep it off, and working in my DBT binder.

Do you have a support system? Family? Friends? Both?
My support system is pretty weak. My parents are around but they are contributing factors to my illness and they are very oblivious of their role in things so are not good support. Most of my support comes from friends/significant others but they come and go so nothing super stable.

Do you think your family understand your diagnosis/mental illness?
They definitely dont, even though my mother shows many symptoms of BPD and other personality disorders herself. They are not very self aware.

How has your mental illness/diagnosis affeted your life?
Quite honestly, it has ruined my life. There are so many things I could have done if my symptoms hadn't flared up just in time to stop me from doing them. I have the intelligence and passion to do so much but my illness keeps getting in the way.

Where do you see your self in 10 years?
I honestly don't know. I would love to be working as an advocate and resource developer for people with mental illnesses that are below the main stream and don't get as much awareness and funding (such as all personality disorders, psychotic disorders, etc).
I keep thinking about the facts though. That 1/10 people with BPD die from suicide. I know more than 10 people with it and it scares me to think who might not make it through.
I honestly never expected to live past 18.. I have things I want to do but if I'm not going to have the chance to get better than I don't want to live this life. 

Do you have anymore questions for me?Nope, just a thank you for bringing awareness.

Thank you Morgan....
--Jenna J M Jones

Book Review- "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me"

I can totally realte to pretty much everything in this book. Relationship issues, mood swings, multiple misdiagnosis, and so on.

Improving Relationships With Your Family

How To Lose Weight And Feel Awesome

Healthy Eating

Behavioral Disorders in Children

Bullying/Cyber Bullying

In my opinion, bullying should be unacceptable and not tolerated amywhere amd everywhere. In my experience, i have noticed that that is not how society looks at it. Bullying happens everywhere, such as; schools, (any level), work, on the streets, and other public places. I think it is ridiculous that some of these places I named allow it.

From my personal experience at school, work, and just walking down the streets, people are very cruel and get away with bullying very easily. For example, i was bullied all through middle school abd highschool. When i would report it to teachers and the principal, i would get responses back like, "just ignore it," "Don't listen to them," and sadly, "There's nothing we can do about it". So when it got to the point where i was told there is nothing they could do about it, my parents and I went to the school board/administrative team... still, nothing was being done or changed to prevent it or at least decrease it. After that, i went to the police several times, and was told, "they aren't physically harming you, so you'll just have to let it go!" And then these people i have went to for help, wonder why i keep being admitted to hospitals for depression, and still don't help change anything. So yea, because of the intense, nonstop bullying, i became depressed and at somepoints suicidal and/or a danger to myself.

I knew better then to fight back because i knew then somethinv would happeb, but to both the bully or bullies and me... sometime i regret not fighting back, just to at least get some sort of justice. But i did not want to be a bully myself, so didn't.

So just for the record, whenever i see, or if i do see bullying happening in the future, i willl damn straight, call you out on it and give you a peice of my mind, but not anything like bullies do. So little peice of advice, Do Not Bully People...

Quote:
"Treat unto others the way you want to be treated"
      --THE GOLDEN RULE!!

Social Dynamics & Communication Skills

Health And Fitness For Busy People

Health and Fitness

How Can You Self Improve With A Mental Illness?

Self Improvement while dealing with a mental illness? Huh? How do I work on it?

I believe that in order to improve your self and mental illness, you have to try and put effort in to it. In my case, that means; listening and acknowledging others' inputs, going to therapy and psych appointments, getting involved with a recovery community or positive crowd, take my medication as prescribed, and take care of yourself in general, such as: hygienic, physically, and mentally. What I mean by mentally is, do not let people walk all over you and use you, stand up for yourself!! Do not let others decide your emotions by what they say or think about you, be you!

If you want to improve yourself and your mental illness, you have to want to improve it. It's not just something that will happen, especially over night. It takes time.

Another way to improve you and your mental illness is, have a support system/team. You can't do this alone, you need friends and family. If you don't have family, create those relationships with people that are family like.

Anyways, this is what I am doing to improve myself and my mental illness. It IS hard, but I know I can do it and I know you can too!!!